A Love Note


Over the years I have written several versions of this Love Note for friends for varying reasons – cancer, divorce, domestic violence, birthdays, etc.  With each writing, it has absorbed more of the collective feminine power and strength for which it was created.  Then, I needed one for myself.  I have come to realize that we all need a Love Note to ourselves, from ALL of us, the whole entire feminine powerful tribal force of US, to give us strength when we need it.  To remind us we are not alone.  That I have your back, and you have mine.  


It’s happening.  Another defining moment in life.

A new chapter…a new progression.

But the impacts are greater than before, the outcomes more altering and significant, the process more important.

Career, marriage, kids, aging, cancer, divorce, death of a parent,

and we wonder –

Do I need reading glasses because I can’t see my armpits when I’m shaving?  Why is my phone in the freezer?  What do I want to be when I grow up?  Where do I fit?  What do I want my life to look like?

The facts of what is happening to you, or what you created, make up the situation; how you manage it is your choice, your definition of your life.  Do you react with stress and negativity, OR, right action without fear and trust in your highest Self without concern for the perception of others?  Mmmm....I say trust your Higher Self.

This is the time to take a big, long hard look inside yourself.  What are your true desires?  What are you really committed to? And realize that the journey is what really matters:  a smile, a hug, a “thanks mom,” a friend holding your hand when you don’t know where to go, or creating the space for you to just be.

It is beautiful and inspiring to see

You choose







You are teaching all of us how to face the next challenges of life by demonstrating these honorable qualities with integrity.  In ways that none of us can begin to comprehend, we are forever changed by your example.

You have given us so much and we want to return so much to you.  We will help you, hold you, laugh with you, cry with you as long or as briefly as needed.  We are your Wild Women, your Tribe, your Wolfpack, your Bench, your Beck & Call girls.

We are all a part of each other and we will be with you, our spirits shadowing your every step, every moment.  Call on any one of us and we will be there.  That is what we do…we gather, we support, we nurture.  As Jada Pinkett-Smith entitled her children’s book, Girls Hold Up This World; you certainly hold up yours.

In the words of Kahlil Gabran on friendship:

Your friend is the field where you sow with love and harvest with gratitude…May you be able to share with your friend all that is good.  Let him know and share not only your moments of joy but also your moments of sorrow.  And know that a friend is not by your side to help kill the time, but rather to help you enjoy life in all its fullness.

We now want to return to you the things you have given so freely.

Please take our






And peace in knowing that we are always with you.


Your Friends