It's important to know your "why"

In the spring of 2012, my life drastically shifted. It was a perfect storm. My husband received a letter in the mail, from his previous career, that altered the course of our lives, along with other business dealings that came unglued. This storm almost broke us financially, mentally and physically.

It didn't. But we sure did learn a lot.

Due to a good base of personal growth work we had been engaged in for many years, quite privately, we had something to stand on. We dove very deep into ourselves, our family, what the world meant to us, what success meant to us, what faith meant to us, and how we were going to break free of the shackles that were pulling us down.

Despite what, to everyone else, seemed to be the very last thing we should do at that time, we invested a lot of our money into ourselves: coaching, workshops, teachers, learning about what it means to be a human being, and I enrolled in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. {best investments we ever made…}

I remember feeling very angry and uneasy at this time. I wasn’t working outside the home. I had dabbled in several direct sales/network marketing ventures over the years, but nothing serious. I had worked for my father’s construction company. I was playing a lot of tennis and going to a lot of girls’ night out.

We were troubled with having based so much of our identity on what we “had,” where we lived, and what everything “looked” like. That’s not who we really were, but yet had gotten ourselves into that exact situation. (Like so many others.) My indignation grew.

I wasn’t angry with my husband for the situation. I was annoyed with myself.

How did I let myself get there? I was a smart, capable, strong woman who had a lot to offer. And what the hell had I been doing?

Yes, I was staying at home raising my children, which is a huge job. Seriously. Huge. I would never say anything different.

But, I’d given all my power away to my husband and family.

They didn’t ask for it. I gave it away. I was always standing at the back of the line. I thought that's where I belonged. That was my place. I was disappearing.

The part of me that was creative, productive, liked business, felt like I was up to something, felt like I was contributing to the world, using my brain for something bigger than me, had atrophied.

(Yes, as mothers we are contributing to the world and we are creating something bigger than ourselves…but I mean the other part of us.)

During this tumultuous time, I had the thought, what if something happens to him? Like, really. Not in a theoretical sense. In the very real it’s-actually-happening-to-people-we-know sense. 

I was not ok with my answer. Which was, I have no idea.

And hey, I’m not trying to be morbid here…just realistic.

It wasn’t about the money. It was a bigger question of what would I do with myself? (Besides being a mom?) What would I want to do?

Who would I be? Who am I? 

Why am I not that NOW?

I took a stand that day, and never looked back.

(During this time, Scott changed careers and became a highly successful professional coach. His swift rise in this field was due his commitment to transformation, to his mentors, to his clients, and the natural gifts he has for his craft. And his supportive and loving wife…wink.)

Fast forward: We are now both coaches. We work with highly committed people in creating possibilities for themselves they weren’t capable of seeing before. 

Our relationship is better than ever, our family and our lives are thriving. Sure, there are bumps and hiccups (and teenagers), but we stay in the conversation of transformation. We have tools to weather any storm, we have a profound love for each other, this work and our community.

We are creating our own ripple effect.

Why am I sharing this story?

Because, personally, it is has become my mission, my passion, to help other women see themselves as leaders in their own lives — in their home, in their community, in their business…so that together,

we can create a ripple effect that changes the world.

Women remembering who they are. What they are capable of. Their strength. Their power. Their passion. Their bold, radiant


The Dalai Lama has said it will be the Western woman who changes the world. I believe this.

I want you to know, from the bottom of my heart, you are never too old, too young, too unqualified, not confident enough, not bold enough, not strong enough, not brave enough…to start something new. To start over. To reinvent yourself...

to take a stand for yourself and live the life you most desire.

As Glennon Melton of Momastery says, "We can do hard things." (Which I repeat to myself everytime my trainer is kicking my butt in the gym.) Believe me this is true. I taught myself how to make my own website, social media presence, took courses, workshops, classes,'s not perfect and I'm still learning. But if I can do it, YOU CAN TOO. You can do anything, for real. (And now I'm turning all that over to the pros...pumps fist in air and does a tap dance...)

But the thing that really lights me up...being in the "arena" with you when you remember your power, seeing the light shine through your eyes as you dance with life, and supporting you in creating a living and purpose for yourself that you have only dreamed about...

This…is my why.

Loving you,